When I told Arden about the passing of our friend Ray this last Friday she, like the rest of us went through the mixed emotions. Shock, disbelief, sadness, worry about his family, confusion in trying to grasp the actual concept of death ... How is someone here one moment and gone the next... and then finally FAITH. That it is not the end, that he is at peace and that he will always be with his family just in a different way. Easier said that done... But I was so proud of her for reaching that realization even if for a moment. And then in true Ardenism form she matter-of-factly said... " Mama...have you ever noticed that only the good die young?..."
Ray was 45 and I can honestly say he was probably the nicest man I've ever had the privilege of knowing. Never have I heard an unkind or negative word out of his mouth. He was a quiet but not shy,everyone loved Ray, humble, and a true family man. He was the father we all wish we had, and we all want for our kids. He was the husband of every woman's dreams- Kerry's best friend and her perfect compliment. They were always together and they both had the greatest and wittiest sense of humor.
I have watched my friend Kerry care for him with courage, grace and strength that I could only hope to have. She has shown complete selflessness.
We have know them for the last 7 years. We used to live across the street from each other and had many, many good times together. Logan and their son Keaton have remained the best of friends. They are like family to us. We have had Good times and hard times and - happy and sad times. But in times like these it really makes me wish I was a better friend. I regret all the wasted times and wish I could do anything to ease her pain.
Yes, Ray was far too Good and young to die. But my God the time he spent on this earth was more than memorable and his goodness will live on through his family and I have FAITH that in time they will be alright.
Please keep them in your prayers. Ray, Kerry, Keaton, and Olivia Underhill.
You can know more about Ray and his life at www.rayunderhill.com
Life is too short to waste on the details. I hope you all know how much you mean to me.
always- Jane
